Archive for July 2008

The beauty of little things

July 30, 2008

Good Morning!


Continuing on this morning with the thought from yesterday is the idea of little things, or small things, that make up the bigger experience, the greater excellence, the exemplary woman. I read a great excerpt from Tolle’s “A New Earth” last night talking about just that. It’s from Chapter Nine: Your Inner Purpose, page 266-267.


“The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for. Everybody’s life really consists of small things. Greatness is a mental abstraction and a favorite fantasy of the ego. The paradox is that the foundation for greatness is honoring the small things of the present moment instead of pursuing the idea of greatness.”


Going through the little earthquake at work yesterday reminded me of the importance of little things. It wasn’t overly traumatizing, but for my first LA quake it was a little unsettling. And I found it interesting that my first reaction was “Why am I wearing these ridiculous shoes!” (thinking I was going to have to try to run the stairs in heels,” and “Where is my dog and roomie and why don’t I have a better plan for them in emergencies.” It wasn’t about some huge “important” report due that week or what designer I was wearing or my car (okay, that ones not fair, I don’t have a car) but about the little things of safety and love.


Today, lets get back into alignment with the small things in our life. To give them our attention, our effort, and to allow them to pull us into our greater lifelong summary of excellence.



Keep sweating to create the small stuff

July 29, 2008

I was thinking last night of that saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” But I was thinking, it’s the small stuff that adds up over time and makes great stuff. Layers and layers of sand and earth make mountains, growth upon growth makes trees like the redwoods, and the small and incessant trickle of water can wear down even granite. So while I know the purpose of the quote is to make us realize life is fun and we shouldn’t worry about everything – I’d like to ammend the statement to fit my purpose.


Keep sweating for the small stuff.


It’s the 20 minutes in the gym when you’d rather sit on your touche that make for a great body. It’s putting back the second slice of chocolate cake that make for a healthy lifestyle. It’s setting aside $50 bucks a month for your 401K that make a big retirement down the road. It’s easy to brush aside those little things and not “sweat” them. But it’s the little habits, the little mini daily goals, that get us to the huge payoff someday.


For me, it’s been waking up 20 or 30 minutes early to work on my life coashing goals. I do it before work so I know it gets done. It breaks this massive goal of “be a successful life coach” into little daily pieces. Today, I just have to spend 30 minutes establishing email accounts in my website. Tomorrow I just have to spend 45 minutes researching a new inspirational thought and writing it. And thus something great happens in a year, or a few years from now.


So let’s all get out there and do our little things today. Lets sweat a little harder over a few small things to get them done, so this habit becomes a lifestyle change and a huge accomplishment, created one little task at a time.

“Excellence is a state of character arising from habit. We acquire virtues of character by practicing them.”

– Aristotle


New and Exciting . . .

July 28, 2008

Trumpets please, dah-da-da-dah . . . Announcing . . . The new official DUCHESS WEBSITE!! Yay!


After many weeks of tweaking, tweaking and re-tweaking, I have finished (okay like 90%) the Duchess official website. The new site will be where all things Duchess reside. The site itself is done, but I’m still finishing the content. The online blogging forum (which is it’s main feature) is not complete yet, but the settings are in place and it should be operational soon. I’ve also added a Duchess store where I will post some of my favorite things to share with the Duchess community.


Without any further adiu –


And now today’s inspirational thought. It coincides nicely with all the work I’ve been trying to accomplish for my developing career. It’s from a song lyric by the group, Morcheeba.


“Focus. Your mind will be strong.

No Distractions.

Soak up,  wisdom all year long,

Then take Action!”


It’s a wonderful life

July 23, 2008

I read this quote yesterday and really liked it. It is by an author with the last name Colette.


“What a wonderful life I’ve had. I only wish I had realized it sooner.”


Part of the reason I moved to Los Angeles was to re-establish a connection with myself. I was getting to a point where I had no idea anymore what I really wanted or who I really was. I had picked up a lot of ideas along the way that sort of “became” mine, but weren’t necessarily me. I’ve been challenging myself here to really root out what I like. And to start taking some time to do things that every year I would say I wanted to do, yet never did. I signed up for French class. I went to my first ballet lesson in almost nine years last night. I’m making an effort to remember that quote above. I have had and do have a wonderful life. It’s time to realize it. It’s time to be grateful for it. And it is time to allow it to expand and grow.


So go out there today and create another beautiful day in your wonderful life. Start this morning out by writing down your “to do” list in a more creative and purposeful way. To Do: “Walk the dog.”


Revised To Do: “Today, July 23rd, I am creating a healthy body for myself and a healthy and natural experience for my dog baby. My walk is creating time and space for me to calm my mind (my mom is calling it walking meditation), to focus on my gratitude, to repeat my affirmations and to smile. I am creating stillness by performing this small act and opening myself up to the opportunity of new ideas, postive thoughts, and a healthy life.”


You’d be amazed by all the ideas of what you’re creating just by walking the dog (doing the dishes, paying the bills, etc.) that will come to your mind. It’s a more creative, more purposeful way to write out your to-do list and (at least for me) it makes me more appreciative and grateful to perform the smaller tasks in a meaningful context.


be bold!

July 22, 2008

There is no particular insight behind today’s thought, beyond the message itself. I think it is so important every day to do at least one bold thing, one challenging task. When we attack one small part of our life we’re afraid of, we work towards overcoming it. It reminds me of the end of “EAT, PRAY, LOVE” where Elizabeth Gilbert is reflecting on her past negativity, her past experiences, realizing now that the bad attitude, or suffering she was feeling effected not only herself, but those around her, in essence rippling out into the whole of the world. When we think positive, when we do bold things, when we raise our consciousness, we’re effecting the whole world.


So go and be bold my friends, try something courageous and out of the norm today!


I will too and then I’ll report back.


“Develop the strength to do bold things, not to suffer.”

-Machiavelli, THE PRINCE


You gotta have faith, faith, faith

July 21, 2008

I went to bed last night feeling suddenly like my faith was faltering. Those nagging, pestering old doubts coming back to roost in my mind . . . “What are you doing? How are you going to pay the cell bill this month? How could you have spent so much at the grocery store? What if the dog get sick? What if your ideas don’t take off?” And on and on it went. Only I stopped myself a minute or two into it, and made myself think of something positive. It worked, and my restless sleepless state eased away until I was snoozing in no time.


The only problem is that I woke up this morning and immediately my head went there again. My stomach felt upset I was working myself up about all of it all over again. I stopped myself again this morning, leashed up Labrador, and we went for our morning walk. And I slapped a big ol smile and my face and started listing all the things I’m grateful for in my head. Betty, my job, my roomie, that I have a place so close to work and don’t have to get a car, my family, my diploma, my desire to work towards something bigger and greater then my current circumstances. And on and on the list went. When I had gotten my head in a better place, taken a long and loving gaze down at my smiling, trotting Labrador, I was ready to start saying some affirmations.


I know that everyday, and that day by day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.

I am more than I appear to be. All of the worlds strength and power rests in me.

I believe in love and am grateful for all the love and abudance and opportunity I have and continue to attract into my life.


And today’s thought is one last solidification of the belief in what I’m doing, and the faith I have that the universe is going to help me in every way possible to achieve my intentions of life coaching, Duchess and the desire to inspire.


“True fearlessness about money can come only when we are not driven by an insatiable desire for security but have begun living a life driven by passion and purpose, regardless of our specific financial circumstances.”

-Arianna Huffington, “On Becoming Fearless” page 126.


Living Exuberantly

July 20, 2008

I don’t usually post a lot on the weekend – no particular reason why – I think it’s just because I like to take the weekends to really work hard on my career direction (career being my long term goal v. my current job). But this morning I read a great little bit in Arianna Huffington’s book “ON BECOMING FEARLESS.” This is a great little book and I would highly recommend it. I was flipping through some highlighted sections and flags I had marked throughout the book and came across today’s thought. It is found on page 48 from the section: Fearless in Love.


“When we learn to accept ourselves – not just our public achievements and private successes but also our failures, inadequacies, cowardice, and desires – then we can transcend our fears. We master our fears by embracing them, not by subduing them.”


I like the idea of embracing our fears, of doing the things that make us uncomfortable or challenged. I recently enrolled in a French class, and every week I go and make a fool of myself for two hours, and I love it. French is something I’ve always wanted to learn so I got over my fear of butchering a language (and I do! the slaughter of such a beautiful language should probably be a crime) and I speak up and participate and continue to go. I’m lucky that I can draw from my language terror living in Austria in college and trying to speak German. I survived that – I can certainly survive a few hours a week of French!


It’s only a small example, but I have big plans! Next ballet. In the fall, I’m picking up a German class to brush up, and of course keeping French. In my career I am working on this blog, and now a website, and in the meantime a seminar format, to keep promoting my ultimate goal of becoming a life coach and helping women. So we’ll start with this French thing and see where we go from there!