Archive for September 2008

A state of Being

September 30, 2008

Good Morning!


I think this week’s blogs have inadvertently become Wayne Dyer themed. I found a few more quotes from his little book, “Everyday wisdom for Success” that I really enjoy. With the economy being what it is, the market taking an 800 point nose dive and all the uncertainty surrounding our country lately, I feel like some good old fashioned inspirational quotes are much needed and appreciated.


One thing I’m very aware of is how much our ego can tie our self-worth into what we do, own, or drive. When I moved to Los Angeles I gave up a lot of very nice things, which I still sometimes think about and have a little sign over. However I feel grateful to have given those things up when I did. It’s allowed me to spend the better part of the last six months taking care of myself and learning about who I am – with no car, house, or things to attach that identity to myself. It’s a big learning experience to still feel all your value and strength completely separate from your things or what you do. In so many conventional ways my life in L.A. is a huge step down but I feel much more freedom and a sense of myself then I’ve ever known before – so I think it’s all in how you frame experiences.


With that said, let’s leave it to Dyer for some wisdom!


“Each experience in your life was absoutely necessary in order to have gotten you to the next place, and the next, up until this very moment.”



Starting out on the right foot

September 29, 2008

Good Morning,


Echoing the sentiment of those lovely hard working dwarfs, hi-ho, hi-ho, it’s off to work I go. . . If only I could whistle a jaunty tune as easily. . . In any event I thought about getting this week started off right with some great success quotes. I’d like to get us all in the right frame of mind for our week so we can achieve our best. And much of doing our best is doing all we can with what we have and where we are this moment. It’s more a matter of attitude then anything else. Here are a few thoughts to get your week started off right by Wayne Dyer.


“Remember this maxim: When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. The way you perceive things is an extremely powerful tool that will allow you to attain everything you desire.”


“It’s not what is available or unavailable that determines your ability of success and happiness; it’s what you convince yourself is true.”

Today, go live with all of the great tools at your disposal and know that you are already successful and happy – because it’s your state of mind, not your achievements. The achievements are the by-products of what’s already happening with you.


And love, true love

September 26, 2008

I have to disclose here and now that my ability to speak is only made possible by the gracious writers of Family Guy, South Park, some Seinfeld and movies. That’s it. Without those outlets I would likely be mute. I can not remember historical dates to save my life, but man I can remember movie and tv show quotes. It’s ridiculous. In any event, I was thinking of the Love post yesterday from Peter Gabriel, which led to the thought of true love, which magically linked me to the thought of the priest at the end of Princess Bride who has the really funny voice and is saying, “Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today. And love, true love . . .” On and on he drones in that funny voice. Random, but now you have a small insight into the random access memory of my mind.


The real point of today’s post is to close up P.G. week with a quote. I wasn’t going to post this morning, but I woke up early and liked today’s Buddhist Wisdom quote and it felt like a nice sum up to the week. Hope you have a great weekend!


“The act of acceptance, of acknowledging that change is a natural part of our interaction with others ,can play a vital role in our relationships. These transitional periods can become pivotal points when true love can begin to mature and flower. We are now in a position to truly begin to know the other. To see the other as a separate individual, with faults and weaknesses perhaps, but a human being like ourselves. It is only at this point that we can make a genuine commitment, a commitment to the growth of another human being – an act of true love.”

-Howard Cutler.

I love to be loved

September 25, 2008

Sorry for the late post – this pretty much counts as the Friday morning post. I had a bit of a snafu this morning and was not able to get the blog together. While there are hundreds of Peter Gabriel songs I love, today’s wraps up P.G. week here at the Duchess. And I’m ending on one of my favorites. It’s absolutely gorgeous and the words feel very universal. I think everyone loves to be loved. I’ll highlight my favorite section of lyrics, and as far as the video goes, it’s You Tube folks – I can’t choose what’s out there. I recommend not watching the video but just minimizing the screen and listening to the song. I find all the pictures distracting – but to each their own. Here goes:

This old familiar craving, I’ve been here before,

this way of behaving.

Don’t know who the hell I’m saving anymore.

Let it pass.

Let it go.

Let it leave.

From the deepest place I grieve. But this time, I believe.

And I’ll let go. Yes. I let go.

I can let go of it.

Though it takes all the strength in me, and the whole world can see.

I’m losing such a central part of me.

I can let go of it.

You know I mean it.

Yes, you know that I mean it.

I recognize how much I’ve lost, but I can not face that cross.

Because I love to be loved.

I love to be loved.

Yes, I love to be loved.”


Desert Rose

September 24, 2008

I’m back at it – and so are the Peter Gabriel clips.  Back in the far, far olden days, when Miss Brown had a cute little black convertible beamer – she used to cruise through the desert of southern Utah on long road trips. I would put the top down, drive fast with the wind in my hair (very Thelma and Louise I know – what can I say, I’m a free spirit) and blast my desert play list. There’s something about the open vast expanse of the desert that truly gets into my soul.


Well, when I would be out there road tripping, pondering the meaning of life, driving through the red rocks and open desert, I would listen to this song over and over. Sometimes I would just rewind the middle and sing it (more realistically scream it – but that’s what’s great about driving alone). I’ll highlight a few lyrics so you can see why I chose it. There’s such a message in every song – it’s poetry put to music. I see it as the two voices at play in our minds, whether it be the choice to take action or feign ignorance, choose good over indifference, or choose to fall in love vs. hold ourselves back. There’s always a choice – it’s just that it’s not always easy.


“I want you close, I want you here.

I can’t help but listen, but I don’t want to hear.

I hear that voice again.

What I carry in my heart, brings us so close or so far apart.

Only love, can make love.”


Theme Party

September 23, 2008

Every week I try to come up with a theme to keep my mind on task when I roll out of bed in the morning and am a blank slate. Usually they’re things like the self-improvement tips and inspirational guidelines. But lately I have had some songs lodged into my head that absolutely refuse to come out. That combined with my new love for adding You Tube clips to spice up the blog have coalesced to produce this week’s theme: Peter Gabriel.


I love him. I started a love affair with this man when I was about 11 years old and I’ve never looked back. The first song I ever heard of his (“The Blood of Eden”) was on a mixed tape  while I was riding with my best friend as her big sister drove us around in her blue Volvo. She was 16. My friend and I were in 5th grade and pretty much thought she was the coolest thing ever. I have the most vivid memories of that Peter Gabriel song. He has built my dreams of love, expressed my feelings of loss and grief and absolutely transformed moments of my life with his songs. I love him. There’s a message in every song – so I found the You Tube clips with the lyrics that pop up so you can listen or read along if you like.


Today’s song is one of my absolute favorites. It’s hard to say that about a Peter Gabriel song but it’s impossible for me to listen to this song without my heart melting into a big puddle and shedding a few tears. I love the reverence he has for love, and the occasional lighthearted jab like “no one can lift the damn thing.” I feel like it’s how I express myself. I have a lot going on inside and I can get it out, but then I am compelled to make a joke to lighten the mood.  I love the idea of a man being in love and expressing it (because I only ever get to see love from the feminine side, which seems “typical” so I am fascinated by the male expression of the concept- they do have feelings?! Who knew?).


I think you can find inspiration in the lyrics. Not just the romantic love kind (which is certainly prevalent) but there is also kindness, having an open heart and a reminder of simple acts that we do out of love (i.e. the “I love it when you read to me” part makes me think of my mom reading to me when I was a little girl and now of me reading to my niece which is very simple but intense act of love as well).




You can be Henry Miller and I’ll be Anais Nin

September 22, 2008

Anyone remember that song? I know my AK girl got it because we listened to Jewel enough as girls in Alaska that we know all the lyrics by heart. Yes, it’s a lyric from one of Jewel’s songs – I think “Morning Song” but I was never too great at titles. Actually, now that I’ve become enamored of finding things on you tube and posting them – maybe I’ll find it by the end of the post.


I have to be totally honest and tell you that I’ve taken today’s thought from an inspiring email that my friend sent me. Mainly because I am not feeling inspired this morning. I think that I see and feel the world and my own world through music. So I can literally hear a song and become blissfully happy or hear and song and become ridiculously heartbroken for like, the 100th time. Yesterday was the latter and I didn’t get a whole hell of a lot done. This morning I’m rallying – but just do not feel inspired or really all that upbeat. So I went through some emails and saw this quote my friend had sent. And it was the first thing I saw this morning that kind of jumped out at me. Hope you enjoy it! And try not to have a case of the Mondays (Office Space, anyone? Anyone?).


“I disregard the proportions, the measures, the tempo of the ordinary world. I refuse to live in the ordinary world as ordinary women. To enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy. I am a neurotic — in the sense that I live in my world. I will not adjust myself to the world.. I am adjusted to myself.”
-Anais Nin