Archive for the ‘Inspiration’ category

When one door closes another one opens

January 30, 2009

That’s what they say. And that is today’s thought from Alexander Graham Bell. We can get fixated on what we’ve lost or the difficult things surrounding us, when usually the best thing to do is recognize a new opportunity. I recently heard Oprah talking on her best life series about how one year she prayed for strength and everything in her life that year seemed catastrophic. She kept praying and praying for strength and things kept getting more and more challenging. Then she said she finally had the aha! moment that you build strength through challenge and that she had become a much stronger person that year. She laughingly said she learned her lesson not to pray for strength again.

Of course she was being cheeky, but the truth is there are always opportunities and new ways before us. I have learned patience, strength and self-reliance (three qualities I already felt like I had by the way – but they have been really developed) in the last year and a half of my life. And for that I am grateful. So as you head into your weekend, remember to look for the opportunities and door’s opening in front of you.

“We so often look so long and regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”



Taking a Sick Day

January 28, 2009

Yes folks, I called in sick this morning. This was a multi-faceted decision which was made based on the following three major factors; 1) Betty has some kind of UTI, so she has to wake up three or four times a night to go to the bathroom. It’s not her fault. I’ve got her on the vet-recommended tomato soup remedy, which luckily she loves and is making a difference, but we aren’t out of the woods yet. So sleep was not consistent. 2) Further adding to #1 is the no heat/no window one-two combo punch served up by the awesome building I live in and their ongoing construction. It was frickin freezing in my room last night. And finally, 3) Roomie has been very, very sick for over a week now and needs help driving to her doctor appointment this afternoon.

SO I figured I could either go in to work for a few hours, or take the day off and catch up on the work that feeds my soul, get some sleep and help my friend. There are a lot of decisions shaking out in my life over the next few weeks. It will be interesting to see what direction I head in from here. But no matter the direction, I’m trying to fly loose and fast so I’m adaptable and open to all the opportunities around me.

And today’s quote is keeping in line with that thought. Goals are great. Just remember to hold how the outcome looks loosely. As with everything and everyone – when you let things be as they are, instead of trying to force them to be what you think they should, you can enjoy life a lot more. I’ve learned that the hard way more then once and it’s nice to be relaxing into letting things be. I think that’s why I’ve felt so much happier and lighter lately. I’ve really been trying to stop taking life so damn seriously. It’s supposed to be fun and enjoyed. It would be like pounding a vintage bottle of wine to get through it. Blasphemy. It’s made to be sipped, savored, tasted and thoroughly enjoyed through all the senses.

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

-Joseph Campbell


She will be loved

January 26, 2009

When I had my session with Sasi (pronounced “Sashi”) the Indian palmist  he closed it by saying a blessing over me and attaching a bracelet with three beads; one for each specific need I had. My three were “To move from feeling incomplete to knowing you are whole, to release all the old energy that is holding you back and to see the impossible made possible.” I was told not to remove the bracelet, that it would fall off when it was ready.

So for the past seven weeks I’ve been running around with a teal, three-bead bracelet everywhere. I’ve built up this big story about how or when it could come off. Like holding hands with my soul mate or while I was at the bank cashing some huge book advance check or while I was having some epiphany. Anticipation; it’s been making me wait.

Last night I was switching through laundry, reconciling my bank statement for the month and organizing all my tax paperwork. I needed a little break a few hours in – so I slipped on my ballet shoes, put on some tunes and had at it. I was a startled that at the height of an awesome sous-sous, I felt something small go flying. I went to see what the object was and realized it was one of the beads from my bracelet. It had FINALLY broken. I was released. Nothing prophetic or astounding about it. Oh well. Back to dancing.

But then thinking about it this morning I reflected on how happy I have been. There has just been a general content, humorous, joyful feeling settled into me lately. It makes no sense why.  There seems to be no one stand out factor in my life that would indicate I should really be happy. But I am. And I think maybe that is my so-called insightful moment. Sasi said one of the blessings I needed was to feel whole. I believe that is where this happiness is coming from. I do feel whole. It’s been a long time coming!

Today’s quote is in line with what I’ve been experiencing the last year. I felt like my old life, my old way of being, when I left was “it.” That there couldn’t be another life for me. But I’m making a new one. I have found the exit from the old so that I can finally step into the new. Keep looking for your exit!

“Every exit is an entry somewhere.”

-Tom Stoppard


New and Exciting

January 22, 2009

Well the Duchess Digest Column is still M.I.A. this week. I had notice from my editor it may be so, but I’ll keep checking until everything is fixed and back up. Until then . . .

This week I’m all about motion. It’s all about hustling and getting things moving again. My energy has become rather stale at the close of last year so I’m really trying to shake things up and get moving. As part of the Yes, we can! Challenge I threw down yesterday I now am heading to dinner and a movie tonight, found a date for my ballet dance performance extra ticket tomorrow night, am attending a creative writing workshop on Saturday and accepted an invitation to spend the weekend in Monterrey next month. Fun and exciting. A note on the Yes, we can! Challenge; pay attention to what you’re saying yes to, or rather when you’re saying yes. Because I inadvertently double booked myself tonight and had to gracefully decline one of my yeses (can’t be two places at once). So calendar yourself a little better then me.

With that said, onward and upward! Keep hustling. Keep making plans and doing what you can to get them rolling. A gentle push can start an avalanche, so see what you can be a catalyst for today.

“You must not for one instant give up the effort to build new lives for yourself.”

-Daisaku Ikedo


The “Yes, we can!” Challenge

January 21, 2009

Today is Duchess Digest Day – but with a twist. The SingleMindedWoman site is revamping so this week’s article isn’t up yet. When it is I will send you all a nice big update.

Until then, there is SO much going on here at Duchess that I am very excited. For one, I am working on a new article for a new website called It is the website for author John Gray who wrote the book series “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” Any chance I get to write makes me happy so I will let you all know when the article posts and will link to it. Also, I’m in the process of working with a designer to get the all new fancy, schmancy, awesome Duchess website totally re-vamped. We’re talking one site does it all, and very beautifully, so while it will be a bit, I’m so amped up about being in the process. There are many other things but those are the two biggies for now.

Oh, and I thought I’d mention we have a new President. In case any of you don’t follow politics (tee-hee). I thought his acceptance speech was so motivating. It is definitely time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and get to it. I’ve been doing that all week, but President Obama re-stoked that fire under my ass to hustle. Gotta hustle.

So in the spirit of our new President, and our new and improved state of mind, I’m throwing down the “Yes, we can!” Challenge. Mainly, because someone challenged me. I’m making it my goalto say “Yes” to everything that comes my way this week. Whether it’s a new assignment, something at work, a night out, whatever. I’m saying yes. I’ve been motivated and happy and I want to keep that kinetic energy moving. This object in motion wants to stay in motion.

“You must take chances. If you do nothing, you reduce the possibilities you have for greater joy.”

-Walter Anderson


A New Dawn

January 20, 2009

Good Morning Ladies!

Today’s message is simply this: Yes, we can!

Not only does that message apply to our new administration, but to each of us. So whenever you’re doubting yourself, your power, your dreams or your decisions just remember – Yes, you can!

Now roll up your sleeves and get to work 🙂

The long and winding road

January 16, 2009

It is hard for me to remember that there is bitter cold elsewhere in the country. I saw the footage of the passengers being rescued off the sinking plane in the Hudson River (what a story that is – amazing!), the trains derailing in Chicago, and the ice and snow sweeping the mid-west. My own mom and sister live in Denver and I hear their tales of sub-zero temperatures and snow. Meanwhile, back at the ranch, I woke up last night and opened my balcony doors to sleep. My room was too hot and our air conditioning isn’t working. It is January 16th and I’m sleeping with the windows open to cool down the room. What a luxury Los Angeles can be in the winter. Especially this winter. Because while the country seems to be experiencing record lows, I think L.A. is experiencing record highs. Mid-80’s every day this week. Its been warm.

So I’m looking forward to a long, warm weekend. Even if the long weekend doesn’t include travel, as I’d hoped, it will include travling around the city. Hopefully to the beach, and on some hikes with Labrador, and to the new exhibit at The Getty.

With Monday being the Martin Luther King, Jr. Holiday, I was reflecting on the man and his influence. I was trying to think of a really great quote to put up today in honor of his life, but I didn’t want the traditional “I have a dream” speech. Not that it isn’t wonderful, but I wanted to know him and what he said in a way outside of what’s taught in school. So I did some searching and found this wonderful quote excerpted from a speech. I like it because it reminds us all to walk in faith and purpose; we don’t need to see the end. It’s a healthy detachment from the outcome at the top of the stairs and to just start walking.

So whatever your weekend plans, whatever your goals for this year, take the step. Take it now. Action is the great catalyst. Thinking can overrule and outweigh sometimes when action is all we need. Take those first steps.

“Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”